As someone who experienced domestic abuse when I was kept as a house prisoner, one of the things I’m often asked is ‘why I stayed’.
People would also ask “why didn’t you just leave?”
It can be hard to fathom for anyone on the outside looking at the reasons why someone stays, but let me tell you it’s not as simple as someone just walking away.
There is never an easy answer to this and anyone who’s experienced abuse will have their own unique experience.
Here’s some of what I experienced:
My book I Loved a Paedophile, explains that mind control goes on in any and all abusive relationships. By the time you’re emotionally and mentally enslaved, you’re so stuck that physical restrains are completely unnecessary.
I had no one to turn to I didn’t realise it was that bad I didn’t know there was help available to me I felt ashamed I didn’t understand I was being abused He told me I would always be watched I was scared
You can read ‘I loved a paedophile’
It took many years before I was free of my abuser. It took me a long time to acknowledge the depths of what I’d experienced.
I was scared people would assume that now I’m free, I’m fine.
But that’s one of the myths about abusive relationships I want to bust. It’s a massive oversimplification. Once you’re free, you’re free to start your healing journey. That’s the beginning, not the end, when the long road to healing begins. And that should never be underestimated.
During my recovery. I took a lot of wrong turns. I tried a lot of therapies and healing methods that didn’t really work, or only worked a bit. Then I went deep into what really does work and why and how to apply this to any trauma. I call it Conscious Emotional Transformation™ and it does what its name says. It not only clears emotional pain but removes the cause of it. For good!
CET doesn’t only take you from broken to healed, but reCETs you so it is as if you were never hurt. You are completely restored.
As you can probably tell, I’m really proud of this discovery and method and it’s something I believe really does have the ability to change everything. Hurt people hurt. Angry people are violent. If we can heal individuals, we can heal our species and restore us to our beautiful loving state.
Dr Lisa Turner