Mothering Sunday is a day to celebrate and honour motherhood. However, for mothers who have lost a child, this day can be especially difficult. It can bring up a range of emotions, including sadness, grief, and longing. Here are some tips on how to handle Mothering Sunday if you have lost a child:
- Acknowledge your feelings: It’s important to recognize and acknowledge the emotions that come up on Mothering Sunday. Allow yourself to feel whatever you need to feel, whether it be sadness, anger, or longing. Express your emotions in a healthy way, through writing, talking to someone you trust, or participating in a support group.
- Celebrate your child’s memory: Mothering Sunday can be a time to honour and remember your child who has passed away. You can light a candle, visit a special place, create a memory box, or plant a tree in their memory. Doing something to honour your child’s memory can bring a sense of comfort and connection.
- Connect with others: Grief can be isolating, but it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. Connect with other mothers who have lost a child, whether it be through a support group or online forum. You can also reach out to friends or family members who are supportive and understanding.
- Take care of yourself: Grief can be physically and emotionally exhausting, so it’s important to take care of yourself on Mothering Sunday. Practice self-care by doing something that brings you joy, such as taking a bath, going for a walk, or reading a book.
- Seek professional help: If you’re struggling to cope with the grief of losing a child, consider seeking professional help. A CET practitioner can provide support and guidance as you navigate this difficult journey.
- Create new traditions: Mothering Sunday can be an opportunity to create new traditions that honour your child’s memory. You can create a scrapbook or photo album, cook their favourite meal, or donate to a charity in their name. Creating new traditions can help you feel closer to your child and bring a sense of comfort on this difficult day.
- Focus on gratitude: Although it may be difficult, try to focus on the things in your life that you’re grateful for. This can help shift your perspective and bring a sense of positivity to the day. You can write down a list of things you’re thankful for, or simply take a moment to reflect on them.
In conclusion, Mothering Sunday can be a challenging day for mothers who have lost a child. It’s important to acknowledge your feelings, celebrate your child’s memory, connect with others, take care of yourself, seek professional help if needed, create new traditions, and focus on gratitude. Remember that you’re not alone, and that there is support available to help you through this difficult time. If you feel you need support, consider working with a professional.
Dr Lisa Turner