Mother’s Day is a special day meant to celebrate and honour mothers, but if you have a difficult relationship with your mum of if you’re currently in the midst of what feels like a feud with their mum, the day can be challenging. It can be tough to face the reality that your relationship with your mum is not where you would like it to be, especially on a day that is dedicated to celebrating the bond between a mother and child. However, there are ways to deal with the challenges of Mother’s Day when you are in a feud with your mum.
Firstly, it is essential to acknowledge your feelings. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or frustrated that you can’t celebrate Mother’s Day in the way you would like to. Allow yourself to feel these emotions, but try not to dwell on them for too long.
Try doing something that makes you happy, like taking a walk, reading a book, or watching a movie.
If you do want to acknowledge Mother’s Day in some way, but you’re not comfortable doing it with your mum, consider doing something for a mother figure in your life, like an aunt or grandmother. You could also donate to a charity that supports mothers and their children.
It’s important to remember that Mother’s Day is just one day out of the year, and it doesn’t define your entire relationship with your mum. If you want to work on repairing your relationship with your mum, it might be helpful to seek the help of a therapist or CET practitioner who can help facilitate communication and healing.
Dealing with the challenges of Mother’s Day when you are in a feud with your mum can be tough, but it’s possible. Acknowledge your feelings, take care of yourself, and think about ways to celebrate the day in a way that feels right for you. Remember that there is always the possibility of repairing your relationship with your mum in the future.
If you feel you need support, consider working with a professional. A CET practitioner can assist you to release your painful emotions from the past so you are more emotionally and mentally resourceful you can read about our reCET Yourself programme by clicking here.
Dr Lisa Turner