Whose Shame Is It, Really?

There is a sentence that gets said to survivors of abuse, usually with the kindest of intentions, that I want to take apart.
The New Duty That Turns Every Harassment Policy Into a Liability

There is a date that every organisation in the United Kingdom should have in its calendar, and most do not.
Your Book Is the Best Place to Start and the Worst Place to Stop

If you have written a book, you have done something most practitioners never do.
Everyone’s Talking About the Trust Recession. Almost Everyone’s Solving It Wrong.

There is a phrase moving through the coaching and consulting world at the moment that gets something genuinely right. The trust recession.
Your AI Clone Knows What You Wrote. It Has No Idea What You Know.

There is a quiet assumption underneath almost every AI-for-coaches tool on the market right now.
How a Five-Pound Bicycle Gave Me My Life Back

One of the most significant things I did in my recovery cost me five pounds.
What If There’s a Diamond in the Rubble You’re Carrying?

There are two pieces of advice that get handed to people recovering from serious harm, and both of them, in their own way, make things worse.
The Question a Therapist Asked Me That I Still Can’t Fully Answer

A therapist once asked me how much I thought I had healed from what happened to me.
The Freedom That Doesn’t Feel Like Freedom

When I first left, I moved into a small bedsit in North London. I had spent a long time imagining that moment.
Why Survivors Protect the People Who Harmed Them

I remember being terrified that someone would find out and report us. Not terrified of my abuser, although that fear was present too.