How to Find Yourself in Behaviour You Find Abhorrent

There is a version of the projection model that I find actively harmful, and I want to address it before going any further. That version says: because everything in your experience is a projection, you are responsible for what other people do to you. If someone treats you badly, you created that reality. Their bad […]

The Person Irritating You Most is Carrying a Message. It’s from You.

This morning I was about to skip yoga. Someone in my team had something that needed to be done. I could feel the familiar sequence beginning: she won’t get it done in time, I’ll step in and sort it, I’ll feel vaguely resentful about the fact that I stepped in, she’ll sense the resentment, nothing […]