Never Ask “How Did I Create That Trauma?” Ask “What Do I Create From Here?”

The Dangerous Trope of the Coaching Industry There is a dangerous trope in the coaching and healing industry. It sounds like this: “You attracted this experience to learn a lesson.” Or, “Your vibration created this reality.” When applied to past trauma, this isn’t high-level consciousness work. It is victim blaming dressed up as spiritual empowerment.  […]

“You Created Your Reality” Is Only Ethical Applied Forward, Never Backward

The Double-Edged Sword of Empowerment In the transformational coaching space, we talk a lot about being “at cause.” It’s the concept of considering yourself to be the creator of your universe, the one who decides what is real, the one who is the cause of every effect. It is an incredibly powerful framework. When a […]

New Age “Calm” Is 1950’s Female Indoctrination with Better Branding

The Jarring Realization I’ve been reading a lot of feminist literature lately while building AI tools that scan for coercive control and microaggressions. And it has completely shifted how I view the New Age consciousness movement. I’ve always been a feminist—you don’t become a female engineer without being one—but looking at spirituality through this lens […]