Have you noticed a pressure to be ‘happy all the time’.
You know, the thing about it not being OK to show up with a negative emotion?
My point on this, is that if we can’t show a negative emotion, how can we be who we really are? How can we be present to what’s real? And if this is the case, is there an expectation that everything has to be perfect all the time? Because stuff happens, doesn’t it! Like a global pandemic!
My observation is that it’s a way of judging, either another or ourselves and that at a time when someone is suffering, then this just isn’t helpful.
And I’m calling it out as ‘toxic positivity’; lacking in compassion, spirituality and enlightenment.
How does this land with you? Have you experienced this too?
It can lead to the abuse of the law of attraction, with the whole ‘you must have manifested this’ thing. I’ve experienced this on a personal level over and over about being a house prisoner – why did I manifest it? Ultimately, it’s what happened, and it’s enabled me to be the person that I am, and to do what I do.
Then there’s the ‘I’ve got the gift’, or ‘I don’t have the gift’. The thing about being ‘special’. And people calling themselves ‘shamans’. It’s a term that is never claimed but bestowed. If you claim it, you lose it, as you’ve stepped into ego and it becomes about the title and not what you do. We can, however, all learn and develop our behaviour and outcomes. It’s down to skills and training – not ‘the gift’.
Anyone ever asked you if you’re being ‘triggered’? It goes like this; someone is behaving in a way that upsets you, you ask them to stop and the response you get is ‘are you being triggered’? How does it make you feel? Being ‘triggered’ has specific meaning in therapeutic communities. You know you have a trigger, if you have a memory from the past, which as you think about now, in the present, triggers a negative emotion. Minor events in the present, can also trigger that emotional memory. It’s OK, and actually important, to be able to experience a negative emotion about something that’s happening in the present – it’s there to tell us we need to take action! Are you with me on how this happens, when it feels uncomfortable? How do you respond? Are you happy with your behaviour, and the outcome? Are you able to tell someone that their behaviour is not OK? Are you able to see the situation for what it is and make your choice in how you respond?
I’m compelled to take the action to help our world be set free from emotional suffering and enjoying infinite love. And I believe in revolutionising how people experience their emotions by elevating consciousness.
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At CETfreedom our clients are curious beings that society would label as ‘out of the box’ thinkers. They’re driven by a yearning for knowledge and an insatiable urge to probe at the depths of human consciousness to gain that in-depth wisdom that shapes so much of our relationships, careers and life purpose. Think of CETfreedom as the vehicle to get you there! We’re in the business of Emotional Transformation at a level so deep, it brings about permanent change and releases you from the damn pain that is ruling so much of your life.
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Dr Lisa Turner